By Krista Hiles
Every woman wants to know whether her man loves her before she commits emotionally and physically to him. The reason she does so could vary from individual to individual and may also be partly because many a men have left their women high and dry after using them. If you want to commit to your man but before that want to test his love for you then you may follow all or some of these tips.
Act like a delicate darling
You will have to put up an act that you get offended when someone raises his/her voice or acts in a curt manner. You may also show your displeasure at cuss words and swearing. If your man starts to show his sensitivity to your feelings and stops swearing or using cuss words and makes sure that everyone around you is nice to you then he surely loves you.
Express your desire to meet his close ones
You can also express your desire to meet his folks, siblings or his buddies and colleagues. If he readily agrees then he has nothing to hide about his intentions. A man that is not serious about you will never let you in his close inner circle.
Casual dating only
Another way of testing his love for you is by suggesting that you want only casual dating and nothing serious. If he readily accepts it then he does not love you. If he is visibly hurt at this suggestion but as time goes on tries to cement the bond between the two of you then he does love you.
Suggest alternatives
Whenever he makes some plans try and suggest an alternate plan. If he loves you he will leave every other plan aside and go with your plan. He will do this without a murmur and will make sure that your plan is a success. This is because he loves you.
Tell him you want to settle down
To test his love you may suggest that you intend to settle down and maybe at a later date get married. If he jumps up in excitement and proposes to you then he surely loves you. However, if he says that you are too young to settle down or suggests that you wait some time before doing so then he does not love you.
He stops dating
Even before you decide and commit to him he will tell you that he is seeing you exclusively. He will spend every weekend and weekday with you and when he is not doing so will let you know where you can reach him. This is a sign that he sees you as his long term partner.
Resists temptations
This is a tricky test and this should be tried only when you are getting confusing signals from him. Ask a pretty friend or cousin of yours whom your man does not know to hit on him. If he spurns her overtures and does not get carried away then he is serious about you. He does love you.
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What To Talk About On A Date
I'm sure you want your date to have fun and you want to have fun, too! You want to ensure that the conversation is interesting and stimulating to both of you.
Body langauge always speaks first in any conversation. When you are confident your body relaxes, becomes more open, you lean in, you smile, and you become more animated. When you are tense or not at ease with yourself, you will be sitting back, crossing your legs, maybe your arms, your mouth will barely break a smile, and your eyes will be searching elsewhere in the room. Knowing this will allow you to convey confidence with your body langauge.
Your verbal dating conversation skills will largely be judged on how able you are to create a conversation that your partner enjoys. Ultimately, that leads to you getting more dates. If you're thinking this is obvious, yes it is! The question is HOW to create an interesting conversation.
Your dating conversation will be made up of you both asking and answering questions. If you ask the right questions, your partner is going to have fun. If you ask the wrong questions, they are going to ditch you. If you are evasive or less than honest when answering her questions, she is going to ditch you quicker.
Questions are powerful. Funny thing is that when a person is asked a direct question they somehow feel obligated to answer it. Here are some conversation starter question ideas for your first date:
"What do you love to do in your spare time?" "What do you particularly enjoy about that?" "If you could go on a fantasy holiday, anywhere in the world, where would it be and what would you do?"
asking these questions you will cause your date to recall pleasant past experiences and share them with you.
Body langauge always speaks first in any conversation. When you are confident your body relaxes, becomes more open, you lean in, you smile, and you become more animated. When you are tense or not at ease with yourself, you will be sitting back, crossing your legs, maybe your arms, your mouth will barely break a smile, and your eyes will be searching elsewhere in the room. Knowing this will allow you to convey confidence with your body langauge.
Your verbal dating conversation skills will largely be judged on how able you are to create a conversation that your partner enjoys. Ultimately, that leads to you getting more dates. If you're thinking this is obvious, yes it is! The question is HOW to create an interesting conversation.
Your dating conversation will be made up of you both asking and answering questions. If you ask the right questions, your partner is going to have fun. If you ask the wrong questions, they are going to ditch you. If you are evasive or less than honest when answering her questions, she is going to ditch you quicker.
Questions are powerful. Funny thing is that when a person is asked a direct question they somehow feel obligated to answer it. Here are some conversation starter question ideas for your first date:
"What do you love to do in your spare time?" "What do you particularly enjoy about that?" "If you could go on a fantasy holiday, anywhere in the world, where would it be and what would you do?"
asking these questions you will cause your date to recall pleasant past experiences and share them with you.
Attract More Men By Doing These Three Things....
Are you having a bit of a time getting men to ask you out? Are you having a bit of a time JUST getting them to notice you?! Ouch!
As surprising as this may sound, EVEN attractive women with a body to match has problems trying to get men to approach them for a date.
Ok, now that is odd!
Actually, it isn't all that hard to put them on your trail.
Do these three things, and you'll definitely notice something different...they'll be following you! Well, hopefully.
ONE:
First off, wear men's most favorite perfumes, which are Candies and White Diamond. Of course there are others, but these two brands seems to be the most popular.
If you are an older woman who is, say, in her forties, yes, Candies is marketed for the younger generation, but men could care less! They love the hint of its sweet scent.
ALWAYS smell nice, even if you are going out for a quick errand!
TWO:
Wear attractive clothes men like. Sundresses, short skirts, tank tops in pretty, solid colors, khakis with a shirt that is in a nice solid bright blue color....
Don't wear any dull or odd-looking colors, like black, brown, dull gray, green....
Just like the perfume, wear these attractive clothes EVERY TIME you go out! Even if it is JUST a quick errand.
Hey, you never know when that right guy will come along, so why not always be prepared to grab his attention?
ALWAYS PUT YOUR BEST FOOT FORWARD!
If you think you aren't that attractive, wearing nice-looking, sexy clothes will help. Don't you think the same can be said for the men? Well, ok, then.
THREE:
And this is the most important!
Men can't read your minds. So, if you are thinking to yourself, "God, I wish he'd come over here to say hello to me." then you need to say it with your eyes. In addition, many people are on the go and they have their minds elsewhere, so you need to sort of slap these guys upside their head.
Yea, yeah, I know, men are always thinking about women, but you'd be surprised that some don't, and if that particular guy you're looking at is one of them, well, you need to make the move.
With every guy you find attractive, position yourself to where you can walk right by him, then get ready to smile and give him that look if he looks at you. If he does, say with your eyes, "Hi, I'm interested in you. Ask me out." You know the look. After doing that, look down and to the side in a shy manner, and then quickly look back at him again, and then back down again. (If you don't know how to do the look, practice it. It ain't hard to do! Geez!)
Immediately look behind you, in case he looks back at you. If he does, give him that same look again, but this time don't look down, just turn your head and keep walking. Looking down for the third time is too much.
It doesn't matter if you aren't shy at all. The action will tell him you are interested. Yes, of course you can simply look him straight in the eye, smile, and say hello, but for some reason men react more to the shy look.
If you're bold enough, try walking right smack into him, then excuse yourself, while giving him that look. Be sure to look back at him with that same look, in case he looks back.
Imagine you doing this wherever you go. ... The grocery store, the mall, out on the street...
And all you have to do is give them that look. That's it!
Do this with as many men as you can, and you'll find your date card filled until you find that right guy for you!
Ok, I know what many of you are thinking: Look, stupid, I'll just walk up to him and introduce myself.
Well, that's ok for you, and you don't have problems getting dates, but just because you can doesn't mean every other woman can. It takes nerves of steel to walk up to complete strangers out in the street, the mall or in the grocery store and say, "Hi, my name is Mary, and I'd love to have a drink with you."
Many men can't even do this because it is too awkward. Being in a nightclub or bar is one thing, but when it's outside those areas, it's like it becomes a totally different world. Men and women who don't have problems approaching each other in bars and nightclubs suddenly clam up when out in the street, or in the grocery store. They're out of their element. Weird, huh?
Many singles think, Well how would this look, me walking up to a stranger out of the blue like this? What would he/she be thinking of me....
There are a lot of people who just can't be that bold, so, for you women who aren't bold, and you're downright shy in this area, this little look you give him is perfect, NO MATTER WHERE YOU ARE!
And remember, many of us, men and women, have our minds on other things, so if it's a Tuesday afternoon and you're at the post office during your lunch hour and you see that guy you'd love to meet, you need to get his mind off of work and / or what he needs to do that day, and start focusing it on you!
As surprising as this may sound, EVEN attractive women with a body to match has problems trying to get men to approach them for a date.
Ok, now that is odd!
Actually, it isn't all that hard to put them on your trail.
Do these three things, and you'll definitely notice something different...they'll be following you! Well, hopefully.
ONE:
First off, wear men's most favorite perfumes, which are Candies and White Diamond. Of course there are others, but these two brands seems to be the most popular.
If you are an older woman who is, say, in her forties, yes, Candies is marketed for the younger generation, but men could care less! They love the hint of its sweet scent.
ALWAYS smell nice, even if you are going out for a quick errand!
TWO:
Wear attractive clothes men like. Sundresses, short skirts, tank tops in pretty, solid colors, khakis with a shirt that is in a nice solid bright blue color....
Don't wear any dull or odd-looking colors, like black, brown, dull gray, green....
Just like the perfume, wear these attractive clothes EVERY TIME you go out! Even if it is JUST a quick errand.
Hey, you never know when that right guy will come along, so why not always be prepared to grab his attention?
ALWAYS PUT YOUR BEST FOOT FORWARD!
If you think you aren't that attractive, wearing nice-looking, sexy clothes will help. Don't you think the same can be said for the men? Well, ok, then.
THREE:
And this is the most important!
Men can't read your minds. So, if you are thinking to yourself, "God, I wish he'd come over here to say hello to me." then you need to say it with your eyes. In addition, many people are on the go and they have their minds elsewhere, so you need to sort of slap these guys upside their head.
Yea, yeah, I know, men are always thinking about women, but you'd be surprised that some don't, and if that particular guy you're looking at is one of them, well, you need to make the move.
With every guy you find attractive, position yourself to where you can walk right by him, then get ready to smile and give him that look if he looks at you. If he does, say with your eyes, "Hi, I'm interested in you. Ask me out." You know the look. After doing that, look down and to the side in a shy manner, and then quickly look back at him again, and then back down again. (If you don't know how to do the look, practice it. It ain't hard to do! Geez!)
Immediately look behind you, in case he looks back at you. If he does, give him that same look again, but this time don't look down, just turn your head and keep walking. Looking down for the third time is too much.
It doesn't matter if you aren't shy at all. The action will tell him you are interested. Yes, of course you can simply look him straight in the eye, smile, and say hello, but for some reason men react more to the shy look.
If you're bold enough, try walking right smack into him, then excuse yourself, while giving him that look. Be sure to look back at him with that same look, in case he looks back.
Imagine you doing this wherever you go. ... The grocery store, the mall, out on the street...
And all you have to do is give them that look. That's it!
Do this with as many men as you can, and you'll find your date card filled until you find that right guy for you!
Ok, I know what many of you are thinking: Look, stupid, I'll just walk up to him and introduce myself.
Well, that's ok for you, and you don't have problems getting dates, but just because you can doesn't mean every other woman can. It takes nerves of steel to walk up to complete strangers out in the street, the mall or in the grocery store and say, "Hi, my name is Mary, and I'd love to have a drink with you."
Many men can't even do this because it is too awkward. Being in a nightclub or bar is one thing, but when it's outside those areas, it's like it becomes a totally different world. Men and women who don't have problems approaching each other in bars and nightclubs suddenly clam up when out in the street, or in the grocery store. They're out of their element. Weird, huh?
Many singles think, Well how would this look, me walking up to a stranger out of the blue like this? What would he/she be thinking of me....
There are a lot of people who just can't be that bold, so, for you women who aren't bold, and you're downright shy in this area, this little look you give him is perfect, NO MATTER WHERE YOU ARE!
And remember, many of us, men and women, have our minds on other things, so if it's a Tuesday afternoon and you're at the post office during your lunch hour and you see that guy you'd love to meet, you need to get his mind off of work and / or what he needs to do that day, and start focusing it on you!
A Date Does Not Start When You Meet Up
Most of us think a date happens when it happens. But if you think of the date as starting much earlier than that when you first meet the girl and start to get to know her, that puts you in a great position to learn more about her long before you have to commit to an actual romantic outing.
The truth is except when you are set up for a date and meet her for the first time that night, most of the time the act of dating starts with flirtation long before you formally go out. And if you use that time before the date in a smart way, your chances of having a great evening with her are much better.
So start viewing the "date" as underway even when you meet her for the first time and gently start to chat socially and mildly flirt. The only real difference is that in your mind, you are on the path to a date and you are intentional about learning all you can before you say "will you go out with me" to her. This is valuable time you can use to your advantage if you use it well.
The common setting you and the girl you have your eye on is a great place to strike up an acquaintance and then a friendship. If you know the girl through work or school or a shared social scene where you are both relaxed, that's ideal. Since you probably both share other friends there, it's very easy to get introduced and to learn more about each other in a group setting. These "group dates" are relaxed and at ease and a great way to casually start a relationship building that may lead to dating and romance.
This is the kind of setting where a casual conversation can allow you to ask some of those early questions that will be so important in making that decision on whether to even ask this girl on the first date. By getting some of that early "espionage" out of the way, you dramatically reduce the chance of having a "first date nightmare" that so many guys experience and never want to go through again. The truth is that other than a flat tire or someone getting sick or hurt, most first date disasters happen when something comes out in the relationship that dooms the chance of a romance. And the worst part is that if this happens early in the evening, the rest of the date can be tremendously awkward.
Obviously one of the things you will skilfully ask about as you build up toward the first date is whether she is even eligible for dating. So finding out about her dating status and any other issues that may block a future social outing with you can save you that unpleasant experience of asking a great girl on a date and getting turned down.
This "friendship" stage is also a good time to find out some general information that would have a big impact on the success of a date and the hopes for a relationship. Differences between you and her in religion, politics or racial or cultural bias issues can be easily flushed out in a casual discussion which can help you make a decision about whether to ask her out and what kinds of thing would qualify as a good date experience for the girl you have your eye on.
Along with these other important areas of research your informal time with her can yield, there is this hard to pin down thing called "chemistry" that can make or break your romance with her. You can find out if you sense that attraction growing between you and if you both have enough in common for a strong launch of the relationship. And if you know before you pick her up for the first date that this relationship may be a keeper, that is going to make that first romantic night together even more fun and exciting.
The truth is except when you are set up for a date and meet her for the first time that night, most of the time the act of dating starts with flirtation long before you formally go out. And if you use that time before the date in a smart way, your chances of having a great evening with her are much better.
So start viewing the "date" as underway even when you meet her for the first time and gently start to chat socially and mildly flirt. The only real difference is that in your mind, you are on the path to a date and you are intentional about learning all you can before you say "will you go out with me" to her. This is valuable time you can use to your advantage if you use it well.
The common setting you and the girl you have your eye on is a great place to strike up an acquaintance and then a friendship. If you know the girl through work or school or a shared social scene where you are both relaxed, that's ideal. Since you probably both share other friends there, it's very easy to get introduced and to learn more about each other in a group setting. These "group dates" are relaxed and at ease and a great way to casually start a relationship building that may lead to dating and romance.
This is the kind of setting where a casual conversation can allow you to ask some of those early questions that will be so important in making that decision on whether to even ask this girl on the first date. By getting some of that early "espionage" out of the way, you dramatically reduce the chance of having a "first date nightmare" that so many guys experience and never want to go through again. The truth is that other than a flat tire or someone getting sick or hurt, most first date disasters happen when something comes out in the relationship that dooms the chance of a romance. And the worst part is that if this happens early in the evening, the rest of the date can be tremendously awkward.
Obviously one of the things you will skilfully ask about as you build up toward the first date is whether she is even eligible for dating. So finding out about her dating status and any other issues that may block a future social outing with you can save you that unpleasant experience of asking a great girl on a date and getting turned down.
This "friendship" stage is also a good time to find out some general information that would have a big impact on the success of a date and the hopes for a relationship. Differences between you and her in religion, politics or racial or cultural bias issues can be easily flushed out in a casual discussion which can help you make a decision about whether to ask her out and what kinds of thing would qualify as a good date experience for the girl you have your eye on.
Along with these other important areas of research your informal time with her can yield, there is this hard to pin down thing called "chemistry" that can make or break your romance with her. You can find out if you sense that attraction growing between you and if you both have enough in common for a strong launch of the relationship. And if you know before you pick her up for the first date that this relationship may be a keeper, that is going to make that first romantic night together even more fun and exciting.
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